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What does it mean to be pro-life?

What does it mean to be pro-life?

Just what does it mean to be pro-life?  The answer would be to protect all life with the emphasis (for my blog) being on unborn life. We can do that by voting against those who do not support life, giving to pro-life causes with both our time and finances, and speaking truth about abortion to all who will listen, just to name a few.  These are all true but it goes deeper.  There is more to this story.

When a woman is seeking an abortion we on the pro-life side can tend to look at that decision in just one way and that is that they will be ending a precious life.  That is true but what are the reasons someone seeks an abortion?  What if they were raped, are attending college or school, struggling just to make ends meet, not married, or the baby’s father has ditched or threatened to ditch if they keep the child? I’m not suggesting any of these reasons make abortion acceptable; they do not, but that these are real life situations that women who are seeking abortions are facing and they are in a crisis.  These women realize they are ending the life of their child, but they see it as their only reasonable choice.  They are truly facing a crisis decision.  In a crisis we tend to want see an end to the situation as quickly as possible to allow us to move on with our lives.  You can see why abortion seems like the right answer for some. 

Pregnancy Resource Centers exist to help women in crisis pregnancies.  We do this by offering them the help they need to either raise their child or look into the option of adoption.  We do not say “abortion is not the answer” without giving them the resources they need to see that continuing their pregnancy is their best option.  Our peer advisers listen to the woman’s concern without judgment and with love and acceptance. We show them how they can earn diapers, diaper wipes, car seats, cribs, clothing, and much more.  The programs we offer are incentive programs, and these moms feel the pride of taking care of their families.  We offer parenting classes to give them the skills needed to raise happy and healthy children. We also offer a shoulder to cry on.  It is not unusual for us to ask to pray right on the spot for whatever situation our clients are dealing with.  We are an extension of the church into a hurting world where an individual may not feel comfortable or even desirous in seeking out a church. 

This is just the tip of the iceberg.  There is a need to offer ultrasounds so they can see the beauty of their child growing inside of them, providing affordable childcare for those trying to stay in school or college, help in obtaining GED’s, providing Christian resources for counseling, job training, and much more.  If we want to be called pro-life, then we need to be ready to offer our resources and time to walk alongside these moms. We cannot turn our heads and say “they are not my problem.”

There are no pregnancies that happen by mistake.  God brings each child into the world at exactly the right time.  As the church (Christians) we need to look after these little ones and that begins by looking after their parents.  I believe being pro-life means providing the support to see every life develop and bloom into their God-given role in society.  We are at a crossroads in our American society where we can stand with these precious moms and truly be pro-life, or we can stand by and watch life be devalued and ended while we do nothing but speak “pro-life”.  I pray we can change the tide before it is too late. We can and must be God’s hands and feet to women facing crisis pregnancies.


To Be Honest

A few weeks ago the board and I had a meeting with another pregnancy center director to pick her brain about going medical and offering ultrasounds. We, as a board and staff, are taking the first steps towards seeing this vision for our ministry come to fruition.  We knew we had a lot of questions that needed to be answered so we went to this seasoned director for answers.  It was during this meeting that I found out that we had received incorrect information at an earlier time.  I shared this information, which I believed to be a fact, at our last banquet.  Today I want to set the record straight and apologize for my stating incorrect information.  It was not done to deceive.

We were told that Michigan has a law that a woman has to have an ultrasound 24-48 hours before receiving an abortion.  That is not correct.  I’m thanking God that He brought the truth to light so I could clear it up.  At the time when I had received this incorrect information, I had asked “why would an abortion minded women want an ultrasound?” It did not make sense in my mind that a woman who was seeking an abortion would care to see an ultrasound.  I now know why, and it is imperative for pregnancy centers to share these reasons with the community.                                 
  •          To confirm and know the gestation of the pregnancy
  •          To confirm the pregnancy is in the uterus and not tubal or ectopic
  •          To help the mother to make an informed decision

Many women do not know for sure they are pregnant and many may even be in denial about it.  They can be farther along than they are willing to admit.  The ultrasound will confirm the pregnancy and show how far along it is.  A mother needs to know this as she is weighing out her options.   There is also the possibility of tubal or ectopic pregnancies.  These pose a danger to the woman and she needs to know so she can seek immediate treatment for it.  There is also the sad fact that 10-20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage before the 9 week.  “Miscarriage is the spontaneous loss of a pregnancy before the 20th week. About 10 to 20 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. But the actual number is likely higher because many miscarriages occur so early in pregnancy that a woman doesn't realize she's pregnant.”[1]  A mother who has taken a pregnancy test that confirmed a positive outcome may later find by ultrasound that she is no longer carrying a child. 
The last thing I want to mention is the role that God plays in changing the parent/parents heart towards life when they see their child on the ultrasound.  These children are alive, growing, and made in the image of God. When the parents see the reality of this on the ultrasound screen, up to 95% of them change their hearts towards life. 

This has been a very painful and yet maturing lesson for me to learn.  This misconception about the law and ultrasound is commonly known and spoke of in pro-life circles.  Where did it start? I don’t have the answer, but I believe those who speak it do so not knowing the truth of the law. Please forgive me for this.  I will work diligently at checking all “facts” before speaking them going forward.  It is always my goal to speak the truth and to never bring harm to this ministry. 
God bless, 

Proverbs 3:5-6 (NASB)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding.In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight

[1] Mayo Clinic Staff, “Miscarriage- Overview,” Mayo Clinic (July 20, 2016): 1, accessed August 31, 2016,

The Light Shines On

Pro-life people received a gut punch last week when the Supreme Court of the United States went against the state of Texas’ law that protected the lives of women who seek abortions.  This was  not a law that took away a woman’s right to have an abortion but to provide her with a sterile environment in which to have the surgery and a doctor who has admitting privileges just in case something goes wrong.  It truly goes against sound thinking.  We, as life affirming folks, can look at this decision as a reason to stop fighting the good fight or we can look at it as a rally call to get behind our local pregnancy centers.
Here are some facts about pregnancy care centers.   They speak the truth.  When a pregnancy center puts out abortion facts to a client they come straight from medical sources.  We don’t have to make up facts.  The medical facts speak loud and clear for themselves.  When a woman seeks an abortion she should know what it entails.  Is it medical or surgical? What are the possible problems that can occur with either option?  How far along is your pregnancy and is it viable?  Could there be emotional side effects afterwards?  If so, what could that look like?  These are the things pregnancy centers talk about - sounds just like a surgeon who will present all facts to a patient before a surgery.  We expect that from a surgeon, and we should expect that for every woman who is seeking an abortion too. 
Pregnancy centers love women.  We want to see them healthy and happy.  We accept all who come through our doors.  There is nothing that someone has done that will keep them from receiving our services.   We give them a welcome place to share and not be judged.  We cry with them, pray with them, laugh with them, and walk through life together.  They have a true friend in us. 

True light is shining out of these pregnancy centers.  This is the light of life, truth, compassion, love, community, peace, acceptance, and faith.  We continue on, even when it seem like we are beaten, because we aren’t.  As long as pregnancy centers exist, there is hope.  God made us for that very purpose.  His hope and truth are presented daily.  Jesus taught us to love life.  This love starts at the very beginning of life until the ending of it through a natural death as God has set forth.  Each life is created for a great purpose and pregnancy centers want everyone who comes through our doors to understand that.  A mom and her child are both equally important in God’s eyes and each should be fought for.  We do that daily.
Everyone can be a light for life.  Pregnancy centers all over the world are making a difference because of those who partner with us.  We need ultrasound machines and those who can perform ultrasounds.  Statistics show that up to 95% of women will decide for the life of their child after seeing an ultrasound.   Pregnancy centers also need financial backers.  Many centers cannot utilize ultrasound capabilities because of the costs that come with it, things like extra salaries, insurances, and creating the needed space for a medical examination room are just some of the costs pregnancy centers face.   We also need supplies to be donated for these moms.  These include diapers, diaper wipes, and clothing.  When a woman decides to keep their child they will need the ability to provide these much needed items for them.  Our centers also need volunteers.  There is much work to do and small budgets to get it done.  Volunteers are invaluable to pregnancy centers.  Pregnancy centers need people to invite us to their churches and clubs so we can get the word out to more people. We need people to attend our fundraisers and invite their friends to attend too.  Try hosting a baby shower or baby bottle month at your church or clubs.  These are a great way for us to receive the funds and material donations we desperately need.   Pray about becoming a board member or sitting on fundraising, building, or ultrasound committees.  We are always in need of people with different skills and connections in the community for these positions. 

There are so many ways in which you can be a light for your local pregnancy centers.  Please help us to continue on in our defense of life.  You too can make a difference for life.  You too can shine.
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